There are some people out there that you are just bound not to get along with. It happens... not all personalities mesh, and you do not always have to appreciate every one's company.
THEN there are those people that you despise because of a third parties actions regarding that person. This is not by any means the way to be, but again- it happens! For example in high school I absolutely despised a girl for years --for the purpose of this rant we will name her Kristen. When my then boyfriend and I had broken up he told me he started keeping the company of this particular girl, Kristen. I wanted to step on her pale face with my stilettos and chop off what was left of her horrible hair cut. I had (have) the slightest of a jealous bone. Eventually the guy and I started dating again. He and Kristen never panned out to much, but she was still very much in his circle of friends and I did not appreciate this at all. I made it known that I was a tid bit uncomfortable with the situation. Much later at a gathering that we all happened to be at, with me by his side(!!!!!), Kristen came up to my guy and said "Why don't you ever call anymore?" I could have spit lava. Long story short, Kristen was the little sister of my guy's good friend. They were nothing. Ever. She was actually dating someone else at the time we were apart and he was using her name to make me jealous. Though still a stupid skank move on her part, she was inquiring why my guy never called her house, aka her brother, anymore. I had despised this girl for so long and cursed her name and she never even realized it or knew why. Turns out our personalities really would not have meshed well in the first place, BUT it was my guys fault for creating this tension in the first place and it was his place to own up to it.
Very 'high school' I know, but issues like this still occur in the grown up world. Example: If you are dating someone and they fail to mention your relationship to a friend that happens to be an ex because it may hurt their feelings, the ex ends up getting the brunt of your hatred even though it is not their issue at all. Any hope of the new flame having any amount of respect for the ex has gone out the window replaced with ill will and the ex ultimately had nothing to do with the situation. Furthermore, in attempting to avoid hurting your ex's feelings you have crushed your current companions and crushed any chance that further down the road you will be able to maintain any type of communication with the ex without causing serious friction. If the ex calls or texts, they are really innocent because they do not know there is someone else in the picture and they do not realize that they are causing issues. All the while, your ex that you were on good terms with has no idea why you have had to cut off ties.... There comes a point where you have to make the decision whether or not to own up to it all. You created this situation and tension. If you still do not want to own up to the relationship to the ex, then you shouldn't be in it! If you want to cut any tension with the new flame, you tell the ex that you have indeed been in the relationship since [insert actual time here!]... and you apologize to both parties for your failure to own up to the situation in the first place!
Just a suggestion, but it really seems simple doesn't it?
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This is all in theory, right?
November 10, 2008 at 12:53 PM
Sure.
But fact: Boys are silly.
November 10, 2008 at 1:00 PM